An unexpected pregnancy can cause many emotions. Taking your time and giving yourself space to figure out how to move forward is essential to your long-term well being.
You are able to choose the family who adopts your child based on your preferences of culture, values and/or religion, and you’re able to have as little or as much contact with your child as you want.
Although it is a challenging decision for many, it’s one that brings great rewards – you’re giving your baby and another family the gift of life.
Ask us for more information about adoption.
Whāngai can be formal or informal between the birth parents and the mātua whāngai (family who nurture and raise the tamaiti). Oranga Tamariki do not need to be involved because the birth parents will still be the legal guardians of the tamaiti. In most cases whāngai occurs at birth and may involve older tamariki (children). A Whāngai tamaiti usually knows their birth parents and has an ongoing relationship with them.
In some cases, parents or others in the extended whānau may not have been able to have tamariki of their own and therefore will be most willing to nurture and raise your pēpe/tamaiti. Suggest you consider talking with your whānau about this unique and possible option.
Fostering involves someone else looking after the baby for a set time to give the mother time to evaluate her options and what she wants long term.
There can be many factors that surround your decision when considering an abortion. Please don’t rush. Take the time to be truly informed.
There are two main methods of abortion: medical abortion, which involves taking pills to end the pregnancy (if 9 weeks or less), or surgical abortion which involves an operation.
You can seek an abortion without restrictions within the first 20 weeks of your pregnancy. After the 20-week period, you must consult a qualified health practitioner who will assess your physical health, mental health and well-being.
Like any medical procedure, it is important to be fully informed about the possible risks following an abortion. These risks can affect your physical, emotional and mental health. Many women experience grief after abortion and some can go on to develop depression, anxiety or other mental health problems. If you are in this situation, please don’t suffer alone. We can offer support if you need it.
We know that making the decision whether to abort or continue your pregnancy can be very overwhelming. Please know that you are not alone, and you are welcome to talk more without judgement and in a safe environment to consider your options.
If you feel threatened or pressured about your decision, you can contact us for support or refer to a women’s refuge.